I saw people do things for the people they love, and sometimes, I can’t help but wonder how it can fade so easily. How can love go from everything to nothing?
Everyone deserves a multitude of things, especially love. I vow to myself that if I can give someone the love they deserve, I will give it.
I’ve been getting a lot of requests for love advice from my friends lately. They just can’t seem to figure out how I maintain a healthy relationship while they struggle.
The solution is simple:
1. Communication.
Everyone has their flaws. They can’t always understand your deepest desires or know if you dislike something they’ve done.
If you get jealous because someone talked to them — tell them.
If you don’t like their tone when they’re talking — tell them.
If you want them to prioritize you more — tell them.
Sometimes, you’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong person. If they didn’t change the first time you told them, then it’s time to leave them. Trust me, they’re not worthy of your time.
2. Show them love.
The term “nonchalant” has been circulating online. And I simply don’t get it.
Why love someone if you can’t show and express it?
When you love someone, you truly love them. Do not only do mediocre things such as saying good morning, complimenting them, or updating them. That’s the barest minimum.
Go beyond and above. Give them handcrafted flowers, write them letters, take them out on a date, cook together, and sleep together. Love them with all your might. SHOW IT.
3. Patience.
Love can feel as if it’s fading as time goes by. When you’re with the person for several months, you might “lose the spark” or “get bored”.
Loving someone is not linear. Loving someone is waking up and choosing to stay. Loving someone is accepting their flaws. Loving someone is surrendering it all and committing.
I believe love is a beautiful thing. Some people tend to be afraid of it because they don’t want to be hurt. But loving someone despite the difficulties and pain is always worth it.
I hope someday when you get an ounce of courage to love someone. Take it.
-A.L ౨ৎ ⋆｡˚
