Being in a relationship means giving them the love they deserve. Bare minimum things such as complimenting them, opening the door for them, saying I love you, updating them, and hugging them are some examples.
Some might go beyond. I see people on social media lavish their partners with expensive gifts. As I scroll through the comment section, I notice how many people compare it to their partner — How they wished their significant other also gave them expensive gifts such as those.
That’s when I started to realize that I also deserved those. I felt as if I was settling for less. Don’t get me wrong, my partner gives me gifts; it’s just that they’re not as expensive as other people’s gifts. But then I thought for a moment that he was just a student. Why am I comparing him to someone who has a job? Why am I comparing him to someone who is financially capable?
Love is a blissful experience that you should not take for granted. Sometimes gifts are just simply an act of expression. It doesn’t signify how much you love someone.
One of my love languages is receiving gifts. I often find myself wanting my partner to surprise me with something. But according to societal norms, if we have to ask for a gift, it loses its value because then it seems like the person only did it because we asked them to.
But our partner doesn’t know us entirely. Even if you’re together for years now, they can’t know what’s in your deepest thoughts.
Sometimes it’s better to ask something than to remain silent. It’s more like I ask, and he provides.
Don’t settle for anything less, but also make sure to communicate and understand the difference between genuine love and material possessions.
-A.L ౨ৎ ⋆｡˚
